A year in recap (2013)

This is definitely going to be more than a year, that's for sure. There are a few particular highlights that I can't overlook.

Janaury 2013

You know how it is when someone breaks your heart for the third time? Well, this is the time - the third time. It's something that I don't clearly know what I did wrong - or was it if the other person was the one to blame.

In any case, it's just the gloomiest, most depressing time in my entire life. I couldn't find anything wrong, and I can't find any errors in it either.

March 2013

It takes some time for a broken heart to love again. I did get myself out there again, but obviously a lot different from who I was before. It's amazing what a month or two in solace can do to a human.

Through the months passed through 2013, I learned to love and learned what and how to ignore the people over and over again. The introversion inside of me can never be ignored, and most definitely cannot even be suppressed. Of course I can use the workaround and try to socialize for some time, but it obviously wouldn't work for an extended period of time.

Some nearby time

I'd like to point out too that during the 2nd semester of 2013 was some time that I'm somewhat worried and confused. Being separated by those I became close with wasn't something I'm looking forward to. Each time that happened in the end, it ends up being separated forever instead.

So yes, the 2nd semester was... I'd say a little off beat. I did plan up a Christmas gathering for everyone and was well surprised unexpectedly by a card with everyone's wishes and also a camera strap. 

Sorry about the camera strap though, feels like I forced you to give the camera strap to me for free.

After Christmas... there wasn't much except that the total number of assignments I did for the 2nd semester was pretty much double the number of assignments I'm supposed to be doing. I did about 9 assignments out of the original 6. Maybe I was expecting something in return.

Again skipping ahead of time, here comes my birthday.

Before I begin, there's something I must tell you.

A best friend is very important to me and here's why - there are several reasons.

1. Seeing everyone having their best friends back since early secondary school days until today makes me feel very lonely.
2. I expect that my life wouldn't be the same old boring, lonely and empty life when I have a best friend.
3. At least a friend cares about me.

Now, let's move on.

March 6th 2014.

I never expected anything. Again this year I hid my birthday from any social stuff for an obvious reason.

1. I don't want my Facebook to be spammed with empty and insincere wishes, as if they're forced to wish me.
2. I don't have any of my previous birthdays celebrated by friends before.
3. I don't expect anyone to even remember it.
4. I don't expect anyone would go through the trouble to plan and celebrate my birthday.

Somehow I was wrong. All of the above was wrong.

This time around, something is totally different.

Everything changed.

1. There was someone who wished me a happy birthday before my birthday, and wished again when the clock hit 12.00am.
2. A surprise was planned, but a certain some fatty screwed it up.
3. People actually remembered, though I guessed they're those who are compelled to wish because someone else wished.
4. Someone went through the trouble to think and plan, and celebrated my birthday.

Obviously it didn't go as well as they wanted it to be, but it is something I'm really happy and proud about.

All I have to say is this.

Thank you to my best friend.

Let's just say that when I got the call asking where I was, my heart was somehow jumping up and about.

When they got to my house that night, I was dead happy.

When they sang the birthday song together, I wanted to cry.

The powerful emotion I felt when I had my first birthday celebration by friends.

NO PRESENT!!!!!! I sad - actually, not really sad, just some basic sad. But well, I know how hard it is for anyone to think of what to get for me that's for sure. I don't tell what I want, and anything I need, I'll get it myself. I'm pretty bottled up, aren't I?

Seriously, thank you to my best friend Mr Rotarykite. The way you gathered information or pinpointing my position and my schedule on that day was absolutely flawed. It's funny since it is your first time planning for a birthday surprise after all. And I'm happy to be your first! You still owe me a hug~~~

If there was anything I wanted to hear... It'll be this sentence.

"You're my best friend."

You better beware of your birthday. 

I'll show you how to gather information.

I'll show you how to plan it out nicely (activities not included)

I'll make you cry FOR SURE.

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I'm glad to finally have a best friend. Hyphen Heights. It's been a year since then.

Now to endure the test of time? I don't think that's hard.

Cheers, here's to the coming years.

Win more stuff from contests, alright?

Till next time - or maybe the next year in recap again.

Well...

Did the mistake I caused a year ago just repeated itself?

It feels the same to me, but reality shows otherwise - or at least deceiving.

No proper expression of gratitude, then eventually I'm the one who break down again.

I don't want to go through that cycle again.

Most of all, I'm afraid of having you gone.

Maybe that's why I help others. And yet I expect something proper in return. A hug, some affirmation, some friendship love.

It's kind of sad to admit that I've never experienced friendship love before. Those that you care about each other and such.

I just want one genuine friendship as described.

..... some truth?

How do you feel when you leave school after SPM, and no one contacts you at all?
The only time those people ever came back to contact is when they need my "expertise".
Each time that happens, I take that as a chance to engage back with secondary school people.
And you know what? Each time, they just ask and then after that they disappear. Poof.
Not to mention that I get scolded when I try to explain something.
The most recent time was my fault for falling into a well-laid trap.
Helped someone assemble a PC for free, but I had to travel back and forth from Puchong for 4 times.
I was requested to travel back for the 5th time just to help him install Photoshop, but I've had enough of this bullshit.

Ever since I realized this harsh truth, a black hole grew within me, within my heart.
I tried to steer the universe in my favour and obviously have failed 3 times actually.

How I steer the universe? By finding myself a best friend.

The 3 failed ones were surprisingly heart aching, you can feel the distance start to grow...
What happened next was less and less communication, and when the holidays came, the distance were few light years apart.
Didn't even say a simple "hi" during the holidays.
I'm not even referring to the long holiday during the year end, just the short two-week holiday.

This is the 4th time I tried to steer the universe in my favour.
It's looking pretty good, but the most feared thing is coming up.
I most certainly am worried.
What happens if again, distance grew and another few light years separate us again?
I don't want that to happen.

Let me ask you this - what do you feel when you're neglected or ignored?
I'm not referring to just anyone, I'm referring to your friend.
Your close friend.
Your best friend.

I tasted this bitter feel for many times.
I just want to know for sure that this won't happen to my best friend.

It's really heartbreaking when you're being thrown away by the person who is very important to you.
Almost feels like you're getting abandoned by your own parents.

I don't know if you can understand this but the reason why I'm so sensitive to these social things is because I've been thrown away too many times.
I grew tired of this bullshit.
Stop.
Each time I get thrown away, the worst part is that I have no one to go to.
I only have my own pillow to cry and soak my tears.

It's the time where I realize it's forever quality over quantity.
And quality is what I'm aiming for.

The black hole starts consuming me whenever possible.
I'm starting to cement that black hole, but I'm not sure that I can.
The ultimate test is marching forth.
I don't think I'm prepared for it...
I'm very afraid of rejection - that goes for being rejected, neglected or ignored.



It's something only time can tell.
I'll continue to steer the universe, if I can.




People also told me that since I have such issues, getting a girlfriend will solve it.
Hell no
Think about it.
If my relationship doesn't work out, then I'm totally on my own.
No external support, nothing.
For once, I think I'll go batshit insane.
This also contributes to the reason... why I need to seal up the black hole first.



And I thought this is supposed to be a "meet me halfway" thing.
Seems like I'm the one on pursuit to meet you at your doorstep.
Maybe I'm too blind to see the other 50%.



Things like these, it's always best to be told explicitly.
Indirect answers and hints just drive me crazy.
Also driving the black hole crazy.




"Don't you know that the heart is something can only be touched by others?"


It's something that can only be felt by you, but those feelings are caused by others.

Friendship - my opinion

Certainly friendship is something extraordinary. It's something that can only be felt when you have friends and you be with them.

There is another step beyond friendship where you attach the word "best" in front. This is a territory where not many treks but I think it's very important - and this is my opinion on why it is important.

Before that, I think best friends have something amazing that none other relationship has. You share love and care like a married couple does, but just without the sexually romantic thing and marriage. I think it's something wonderful that can happen to the person of the same gender or opposite gender. This is the true unconditional love.

Well life is like a room with separate doors for everyone. All are welcome to go in and out. When you go in, means you see introduced to that particular person, and you're no longer in contact when you leave. Simply analogy.

In life, twenty years old me have already met many people. Prior to my university though, they're all already gone. They left.

I was left bare lonely for 6 months straight after SPM. It does sound a little too extreme to be believable, and I don't blame you because you haven't been through it yourself.

Normal friends aren't those that you can simply share secrets with or seek their shoulder for you to cry on. Only best friends can. They'll listen, console and make you feel like you're the most wonderful thing that ever happened to their life.

However, normal friends, they're the ones that will come and go. 
Best friends are *ideally* - at least for me - those who won't leave. They jio you. They know you by heart - in an instant, without thinking.

Of course to be best friends you first have to be friends. And by that, I think I'm already very tired of reintroducing myself to everyone, then having my traits to be known by everyone else again and such.

So yeah... my best friends... I'm glad you're here.

Wtf...

God damn, I'm fucking 20 years old and I'm still fucking insecure about friendship. What the fuck man?
My biggest criteria to be a best friend to the world is to always be there for them, even when they're down or happy. Love and care unconditionally. My bony shoulder is always available for my best friends to cry on.

I also have trust issues. And that trust issue is with myself.

Are the things they say real? Is it not? I don't know.

Please don't leave me.

These... pulses of friendship insecurity has been repeating since forever...
Be gone, foul beast!

Sometimes

...

Sometimes I wish Facebook to never exist.
Why?

Because each time I browse around, I see things that makes me feel like a failure.
Particularly when someone else have memories of their high school life to show.
And yet they're in the same school and class as I am.

Another thing is when they have photos of their surprise birthday party. Damn I wish that even ONCE my birthday was celebrated. Just once.

It makes me feel all teary and sad when I saw those two things. It's something I can't "summon" to myself, and most definitely cannot force or even hint others to do it.

Guess I'll just drench in my own sorrow. Suck it up. That's life, right?

The void. The emptiness.

This is particularly something that has been bothering me since forever, but I can never get myself to tell anyone at all.

Let's start with the explanation. It's a void, an emptiness, that started to grow since the beginning of Form 4. Let's just use year 2009 as the reference.

The void spans for 2.5 years, from beginning of 2009 to mid-2011, the beginning of MMU.

The years of Form 1 to Form 3 is more like the years to get to know each other, and the remaining two years of Form 4 and Form 5 is to nurture and strengthen the bonds between each other, at least that's what I observed. I found it to be correct however as there are many living proofs.

Back to the void. In the days of 2009 and 2010... well let's just say I didn't have anyone to nurture and strengthen the bond with anyone at all. That pretty much left me to become a lone wolf for those remaining two years in secondary school.

I actually can explain why I'm such an obsessive and insecure little bugger when it comes to friendship - particularly about "best friend" part. 

Let's just say... it's either I forget about the entire 2.5 years (which means forgetting the entire "void" period) or just fill in the gap. I'm actually giving that option because I can't accept the cold fact that this actually happened. Seriously, I can't.

Forgetting is never going to happen, since constant reminder from the world about the void is always present... and the void just consumes everything I have each time that happens.

Filling in the gap is what I am constantly trying to do... but with unforeseen future... If I do have some good friends that... well... be my best friend and just fill in the entire 2.5 years, I'd be so happy that I can kiss someone. But then I know that's never going to happen, so it's a waste of time anyway.

Been on the search for best friends for... one... two... three.. four time... I lost count... but the main point is all of them failed. The only thing that motivates me to keep trying is the void itself. Ironic, since I'm trying to close it down, yet it's the only thing that keeps me moving forward.

Now however, I now have people that I can rely on, that is already filling in the 2.5 years gap... but once they leave, the gap will just go back to its original state... and I'm grateful. A shoulder to cry on or someone to celebrate successes with?

Hope this lasts forever, too. Everyone says, let it flow naturally. I don't think everything is that natural after all, and I will put effort in it, bending and manipulating it to my own will. I hope that this effort and feeling is mutual too...

One thing I can always do is just wear a mask to cover it all up, hopefully that mask will sink in, covering everything beneath it, lost and buried forever in the depths.

Insecurity of me

Yeah, I'm an insecure little bitch. I want someone to tell me that they'll be here forever, and they won't leave me until the end of time.

Well not in the lovers type of way of course, but friendship kinda way.
That won't happen though, it's something that only time will tell. My mind is always in the future or the past, it's never focused on the present time.

To be honest, I do think that's what best friends are for. Care about each other, no matter what happens.
"Best friend" is very vague word, but when you do think about it, a best friend is somewhat not so ideal at all. "Best friend" is a road not taken by many, so there are no heavy topics or debate about what it is, but I think it's an important part of life.

They're the ones who care about you indefinitely. They won't leave you when you tell them to leave, since they know you're in pain or unhappy.
Surely different people will try different methods to make that unhappiness go away.
Some people will try to cheer you up, some will ask you to pour your heart's poison out.

To be honest, I'm the kind of guy who appears to be emotionless most of the time, but then I'm actually sensitive as heck.
Funny since insecurity and sensitivity issues come from a guy like me eh?

Back to the main one, best friend is about caring for each other unconditionally and indefinitely. They'll be the one who listens to you, advices and make you feel good. Those who won't leave you alone. Those who will call you out of a sudden and make your day. Those phone calls that an introvert can't resist. It exists.


There are still many things that I cannot accept as a fact of life - particularly my own life.
If I ever got the chance to talk my heart out to someone I care, I won't hesitate at all.

I'm someone who doesn't get along well with jokes, and I find jokes a little offensive sometimes.


I always wondered - I used to live purely as a lone ranger since the beginning, why can't I continue on as a lone ranger now? I can't find the answer, and the last time I tried being a lone ranger ended up being all clingy again.

The introvert in me wants interaction, but still retracts to only about 1 or 2 person at a time.
The antisocial in me wants to continue to live back the way I used to be - alone, no headache of social stuff at all. It's quite impossible given that I'm in such a position right now.


I should really stop comparing myself to other people too. That really made me suicidal.
The past is past, we can't change the things we spent our time on. In university, it all depends on your brain and your talent. No joke that I'm already physically unfit, how can I even strive...

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Impressions

My face really does give out bad aura doesn't it?

Everyone said I give out the "I want to kill you" look before they knew me.

Damn.